Merely understanding the situation they're in should make it less painful.
The least popular group is quite small. Nerds serve two masters. In my high school French class we were supposed to read Hugo's Les Miserables. Are Mongol nom all nihilists at thirteen?
I vowed that I would never be tactful; they were never going to shut me up. A really nerdy nerd is going to miss the social queues and despite wanting that person to like them, will belittle and demean the person by correcting them. Life in this twisted world is stressful noy the. Why do people move to suburbia?
They don't realize that it takes work to be popular. Nor, as far as I can tell, is the problem so bad in most other countries.
Showing up for school plays is one thing. The popular kids learned to be popular, and to boj to be popular, the same way the nerds learned to be smart, and to want to be smart: from their parents. Test: List the three main causes of the Civil War. And, like prisoners, the culture we created was barbaric.
I don't mean to suggest they do this consciously. Why is the real world more hospitable to nerds? Bill Gates will of course come to mind. What is the low-key nerd? In a large enough pool, even the smallest minorities can achieve a critical mass if they clump together. There's nothing wrong with the system; it's just inevitable that kids will be miserable at that age.
It's important to realize that, no, the adults don't know what the kids are doing to one another. Any society of that type is awful to live in.
Because I didn't fit into this world, I thought that something must be wrong with me. This was too subtle for me. But in a typical American secondary school, being smart is likely to make your life difficult.
It Lookking to be important to get Lookong right answers, and that's where nerds show to advantage. As jobs become more specialized, we have to train longer for them. Perhaps a few will have the energy to try to change things. Teenage apprentices in the Renaissance seem to have been cheerful and eager. They know, in the abstract, that kids are monstrously cruel to one another, just boj we know in the abstract that people get tortured in poorer countries. Low-key nerds know when to keep their mouths shut and to smile along as their dates tell them why Q Franklin is their favorite president… You know the implications of Fukushima but choose to ignore it You know that after the Japanese Tsunami, the Fukushima Nuclear power plant leaked hundreds of thousands of tons of radioactive matter into the ocean, effectively polluting much of the Pacific ocean where the Yellowtail Scallion roll you are now staring down originated from… but you eat it anyway yolo I wish they had just told us outright that we were savages and our world was stupid.
If it's any consolation to the nerds, it's nothing personal. Why is he doing that?
But to who? There was a brief sensation that year when one of our teachers overheard a group of girls waiting for the school bus, and was so shocked that the next day she devoted the whole class to an eloquent plea not to be so cruel to one another.
In fact, it's derived from the same root as "tactile," and what it means is to have a deft touch. We have a phrase to describe what happens when rankings have to be created without any meaningful criteria. They used drugs, at least at first, for the social bonds they created. Tactful is the opposite of clumsy. After a nud, drugs have their own momentum.
It's no wonder, then, that smart kids tend to be unhappy in middle school and high school. He'd seem to the kids a complete alien.
What struck me at the time was that she was surprised. The reason kids are so unhappy, adults tell themselves, is that monstrous new chemicals, hormones, are now coursing through Lookkng bloodstream and messing up everything.
This was easy to do, because kids only ate lunch with others of about the same popularity. E tables contained the kids with mild cases of Down's Syndrome, what in the language of the time we called "retards.
You like to consider yourself like Clark Kent or Batman You probably also are interested in the comics because, you are still, a nerd. In almost any other kind of work, they'd be a net loss. As well as gaining points by distancing oneself from unpopular kids, one loses points by being close to them. Kids are sent off to spend six years memorizing meaningless facts in a world ruled by a caste of giants who run after an oblong brown ball, as if this Lookinng the most natural thing in the world.
Misrule breeds rebellion; this is not a new idea. In fact it's only the context that makes them so. Nearly everyone I've talked to agrees: the nadir is somewhere between eleven and fourteen.
If that was what character and integrity were, I wanted no part of them. Someone who thinks his feet naturally hurt is not going to stop to consider the possibility that he is wearing the wrong size shoes. It's because the adults, who no longer have any economic use for you, have abandoned you to spend years Lloking up together with nothing real to do.